This morning I read a large article about a new drug that is currently awaiting FDA approval. or actually it;s two drugs, Lybrido and lybridos. Both have been developped to make women want to have have sex. So, in a way, it is supposed to fix a problem much like viagra does. One big difference: where Viagra helps men who already want to have sex, these pills are supposed to make women want something which they therwise wouldn’t.
All the sex you want
I am not against having sex. And I am certainly not against other people having sex. If people want to have sex with each other five times a day and no one gets hurt: good luck to you. The keyword in those phrases is ‘want’. As much as am I very much in favor of people having sex who want to have sex, I am also very much against people having sex who do not want to have sex. Which does not make me a fan of pills that aim to do precisely that, make someone want something she does not want out of her own.
Filthy bastards and desperate housewives
Undoubtedly thereare women who would actually benefit from such a pill. Women who as a result of medication or a hormonsl inbalance would like to ‘want to’, but are physically unable to actually get ‘in the mood’. But, let’s face it, the majority f these pills will be sold to
- Filthy bastards who do want to ‘shag the missus’, but do not want to have to go through all that romantic crap
- Desperate houswives who believe all their neighbours are having wonderful tantric sex everyday and therfor are afraid something is wrong with them
No matter which way you look at it, it seems like a typical male (and I mean this in the most Neanderthal-like way) solution to a potential problem. Take a pill, lie down and shut up.
Screw thy neighbour
The sexual revolution and feminism have something in common. Where they both advocated freedom for all genders, they ended up with a big win for men. Women have to choose their careers over their familiy (thats what feminists fought for apparently), in others words: they need to pretend they’re men. And you have to have sex at least 2,7 times a week, because after the sexual revolution you need to fuck above the national average. Both are, with all due respect, complete bollocks. We are in desperate need of a new hollistic revolution that says; if you want to stay at home with your kids instead of working for a seconds car, third flatscreen and fourth Carribean cruise, then that’s okay. If you don’t want sex 2,7 times a week but, say, once a month and you and your partner are fine with it, then that’s okay. Don’t take pills (or jobs) just to live up to your neighbour’s expectation. Screw them… well, you know what I mean.
Quality, not quantity
The point of all this? These pills are typical for our consumerist mentality. These pills are only aiming to help you have more sex, not better sex. It does nothing to help you in your relationship, to respect, enjoy and love each other more. just like hamburgers make you forget about real food, these pills make you forget about real sex. They’re just Whoppers for between the sheets. Good food requires good ingredients and thoughtfull, loving preparation.It requires time and attention. Get the analogy?